Make Eye Contact
If the person you’re interested in looks away with
disinterest, or gives you a strange look, forget about it. There are too
many other people out there that will find you interesting.
No one wants to meet you if you’re walking around sulking.
Smile and you’ll see how many people smile back – smiling is contagious.
Listening to what he or she is saying is very important. Everyone wants
to feel interesting. If you are having a conversation with someone and
you’re looking around, they’ll feel that they’re not able to keep your
attention, or that you’re looking around to see if you find someone better.
If you like the person, listen to what they’re saying and pay attention to
Let them know that you’re paying attention to what they’re saying. Ask
questions, find out more about what they’re talking about. Everyone
wants to feel interesting and by asking questions, you’re saying, I really
care about what you have to say and want to know more.
Don’t Keep Talking
You may feel that your life is fascinating, but who wants to hear all about
you all night long? Let the person you’re interested in tell you about
themselves. People love to talk about themselves.
People are drawn to people with confidence. If you convey confidence,
people will find you more attractive. Aren’t you more attracted to
people who have confidence, people who stand up straight, smile, speak with
enthusiasm? Picture a person who is really shy, walks slumped over, acts
depressed – do you really want to meet that person? I didn’t think so.
Don’t forget to compliment their beautiful eyes, porcelain skin, cool outfit.
People love receiving compliments, it makes them feel good. Make a
person feel good, and they’ll want to be around you.
Don’t Be Pushy
Don’t harass the person. If they’re not interested in you, then they’re
not, plain and simple. It’s not the end of the world. Just find
someone who is.
Don’t Use Those Old
Did they ever work before? I don’t know anyone who likes pick-up lines.
It just makes the person feel that you’ve used them many times before and,
therefore, they’re just someone else in your long list that you’re trying to
pick up. Say hello, smile, and take it from there.
Give the person you’re interested in a hint. Sometimes it’s hard to
tell. Let them know that you like them, ask them questions about
themselves, smile, compliment, etc.
Don’t Be A Dud
If you are trying to ask someone out, don’t go on about what a lousy life you
have, your boring job, the fact that you’re broke, or about previous failed
relationships. No one wants to hear those things. Tell them about
the great vacation you were on, the fun you had last weekend – you get the
Laugh At Their Jokes
If you’re speaking with someone you like and they tell you a joke, laugh.
If you don’t, they’ll feel that they’re boring you. Even if the joke
wasn’t that funny, laugh, it will make them feel good.
Play With Your
Guys love it when women play with their hair. I don’t know why,
but I’ve found many men say that it’s a turn-on. You want the guy to
wish he was playing with it, instead of you.
Don’t Be A
If you’ve met that person you’ve been interested in and are engaged in
conversation, don’t start talking dirty, asking questions about sex, etc.
You want the person to feel that you’re interested in them – not just into
getting them in bed. If you’re a woman and start speaking about sex, men
would probably love it, but that would only give them the wrong impression.
They’d think that you were easy (maybe you are), but they’ll only think about
one thing after that. If they call you, it will probably be for one
thing also. Do you want that? If you do, great! If you
don’t, do what my mom always told me when I was growing up, “Keep your brains
in your head and your pants on.”
Give Them Space
How is a person going to come up to you when you have all your friends
surrounding you? Give them some space to move in. Take a walk
closer to where they are, smile, show them you’re interested. Take a
walk to the bar, get a snack, walk by again and see what happens.
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